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Coping with changing as a man

There’s a lot of information around for women when it comes to “the change,” but not so much for men. We’re not talking about a male version of the menopause here either (an ironic title for something that women suffer with!) We are sensual massage experts anyway, not medical practitioners. But we do know about men, as we have consistently pointed out on this blog. So, we’re just sharing with you some ideas on coping with your body as you grow older and begin to experience some things that you may find depressing, or even distressing at times.

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You’re not 18 anymore

So, you’re not a young man anymore. We don’t want to trivialise it in any way, but there is something you need to know to begin with. Before you start worrying that you can’t do this or that anymore, consider what you can do now that you’re older. You are hopefully wiser, smarter, more respectful and admiring of women, more focused on the important things in life and overall a more compassionate and attractive person to be around. This is the main reason women find older men so much more attractive.

What is it you’re missing anyway? So you may have to wait a little longer between ejaculations? You may not shoot like a cannon anymore? You may even struggle sometimes to get it up and keep it up? It’s not a big deal. Okay, sometimes it’s a big deal, but the majority of the time it’s all in your head and you make things much worse by worrying about it. Here are a few practical steps you can take to lessen the impact of your aging body, on your worried mind. Remember though, it’s inevitable, and fighting too hard may leave you missing out on the important things.

The penis

Let’s face it, your dick is the cause of most of your anxiety! This is the reason why we’re talking about sexual disappointments as you get older and nothing else. And as sensual massage experts, we do know more than a little about them! Here’s what you need to do to keep yourself in good shape sexually for as long as possible as you age.

Kegel exercises

These are pretty important. You know the muscle you contract in your groin when you cut off the flow of urine? That’s the muscle you need to start exercising. The muscles include: prostate, anus and urethra and they stretch right around to your coccyx. You can exercise these muscles pretty much anytime you like. You simply sit there, or stand there, or lay there and contract the muscles. Start out with three sets of contractions, three times a day, then move them up to 50. Take a rest day between; they are muscles and they need a chance to rebuild just like any other!

What this will fix

These exercises are good for all of the following:

  • Erectile dysfunction
  • Premature ejaculation
  • Improved orgasms
  • Performance anxiety

We hope these work for you and make you feel much more confident. And perhaps when we see you next for your sensual massage, you’ll feel even more prepared and have an even more heightened experience.